Tips for Homebuying with Family Members

Shanna Davis • April 16, 2019

Pooling resources with parents or siblings opens possibilities when it comes to buying a home everyone can afford. Homebuying requires careful planning though, since there’s so much at stake—and money is the least of it; we’re talking love and loyalty here.

If you want to buy a home with family members (and still be on speaking terms during family functions) this is what you need to consider.

Answer this: Why are you moving in together?

Perhaps mom and dad need to downsize and want to be closer to their children. Maybe one of those children needs after-school care for the kids, or someone has gone through a divorce and needs family support…

Besides saving money, families considering buying a home together often have non-financial issues that make it a good choice. Agree on how you’ll all help each other—cooking communal meals; driving parents to medical appointments or kids to school; etc.

Now you need to separate those personal arrangements from the legal aspects of buying a home together. This isn’t Thanksgiving dinner, it’s business.

Hire a lawyer.

All homebuyers should use a lawyer, and that’s especially true for families buying together. Be prepared to spend more on legal services too. Why? There’s more to cover.

The following commitments and promises should be considered when preparing binding legal documents.

Disclose your financial standing.

All potential co-owners should share their credit report (it’s free  here ) with the group. You may want wine for this meeting.

If you’re applying for a mortgage together (the  Family Plan Program  is designed to help with this) you need to know where each person stands to determine how that could impact all family members.

Be prepared to tell your clan how much you have for a downpayment and how much you can pay monthly. Add up everyone’s contribution and use our calculator  here  to figure out how much family home you can afford.

Imagine the future.

A home should be a long-term commitment, but life happens: job loss or out-of-town promotion, a baby, illness—those are just a few things that impact your life. Discuss what impact they could have on your housing arrangement.

For example, under what circumstances could the property be sold? For instance: What happens if not all co-owners want to sell at the same time?

Consider setting a minimum amount of time that everyone will commit. (Your mortgage term is a good place to start.) Then plan for what could happen after that.

For example, you may want to do some research around what financial options are available to you when one owner wishes to leave – such as buying out that owner’s share. Or, the empty unit could be rented to generate income that would pay back, over time, the owner who wanted to sell.

The solutions will be as unique as your family. Talk it all through first.

Consider upkeep and upgrades.

Decide how to cover emergency expenses, like a roof or HVAC repair, and less urgent improvements, such as exterior painting.

An easy approach is to open a high interest-rate savings account and have everyone contribute to it monthly.

Here’s where things get tricky: Let’s say you want to upgrade bathroom and kitchen fixtures. That will make your personal space extra nice, but it could also improve the building’s energy efficiency and resale value. Will all family members contribute financially to your upgrades?

These may seem like details for later, but small grievances can snowball into big resentments. Tackle them before signing day. And remember, for any transaction of this nature, it is crucial to consult with a mortgage professional before proceeding.

Contact me anytime , I would love to point you in the right direction.

 

This article was written by Genworth Canada   and first appeared on their website here. 

SHANNA DAVIS

Mortgage Broker

CONTACT ME

RECENT POSTS

What Is a Cashback Mortgage and How Does It Work?

By Shanna Davis • May 21, 2026
Cashback Mortgages: Are They Worth It? Here’s What You Need to Know If you’ve been exploring mortgage options and come across the term cashback mortgage , you might be wondering what exactly it means—and whether it’s a smart move. Let’s break it down in simple terms. What Is a Cashback Mortgage? A cashback mortgage is just like a regular mortgage—but with one extra feature: you receive a lump sum of cash when the mortgage closes . This cash is typically: A fixed amount , or A percentage of the total mortgage , usually between 1% and 7% , depending on your mortgage term and lender. The money is tax-free and paid directly to you on closing day. What Can You Use the Cashback For? There are no restrictions on how you use the funds. Here are some common uses: Covering closing costs Buying new furniture Renovations or home upgrades Paying off high-interest debt Boosting your cashflow during a tight transition Whether it’s to help you settle in or catch up financially, cashback can offer a helpful buffer— but it comes at a cost . The True Cost of a Cashback Mortgage Here’s the part many people overlook: cashback mortgages come with higher interest rates than standard mortgages. Why? Because the lender is essentially advancing you a small loan upfront—and they’re going to make that money back (and then some) through your mortgage payments. So while the upfront cash feels like a bonus, you’ll pay more in interest over time to have that convenience. Breaking Down the Numbers It’s hard to give a blanket answer about how much more you’ll pay since it depends on: Your interest rate The cashback amount The mortgage term Your payment schedule This is why it’s important to run the numbers with a mortgage professional who can help you compare this option with others based on your personal financial situation. Are You Eligible for a Cashback Mortgage? Not everyone qualifies. Cashback mortgages generally come with stricter requirements . Lenders often want to see: Excellent credit history Strong, stable income Low debt-to-income ratio If your mortgage file includes anything “outside the box”—like being self-employed or recently changing jobs—qualifying for a cashback mortgage might be tough. What If You Need to Break the Mortgage? This is one of the biggest risks with cashback mortgages. If your circumstances change and you need to break your mortgage early, you could be on the hook for: Paying back some or all of the cashback you received, and A prepayment penalty (typically the interest rate differential or 3 months’ interest—whichever is higher) That can be a very expensive combination. So if there’s even a chance you might need to sell, refinance, or move before your term is up, a cashback mortgage might not be the best fit. Should You Consider a Cashback Mortgage? Maybe—but only with eyes wide open. Cashback mortgages can be helpful in the right scenario, but they’re not free money. They’re a lending tool that benefits the lender , and the key is knowing exactly what you’re agreeing to. Final Thoughts: Talk to an Expert First Choosing the right mortgage isn’t just about the lowest rate or the biggest perk—it’s about making a choice that fits your whole financial picture. If you’re considering a cashback mortgage, or just want to explore all your options, let’s talk. As an independent mortgage professional , I can help you weigh the pros and cons of various products, so you can make a confident, informed decision. Have questions? I’d be happy to help—reach out anytime.

Mortgage Approval 101: GDS & TDS Explained

By Shanna Davis • May 7, 2026
Can You Afford That Mortgage? Let’s Talk About Debt Service Ratios One of the biggest factors lenders look at when deciding whether you qualify for a mortgage is something called your debt service ratios. It’s a financial check-up to make sure you can handle the payments—not just for your new home, but for everything else you owe as well. If you’d rather skip the math and have someone walk through this with you, that’s what I’m here for. But if you like to understand how things work behind the scenes, keep reading. We’re going to break down what these ratios are, how to calculate them, and why they matter when it comes to getting approved. What Are Debt Service Ratios? Debt service ratios measure your ability to manage your financial obligations based on your income. There are two key ratios lenders care about: Gross Debt Service (GDS) This looks at the percentage of your income that would go toward housing expenses only. 2. Total Debt Service (TDS) This includes your housing costs plus all other debt payments—car loans, credit cards, student loans, support payments, etc. How to Calculate GDS and TDS Let’s break down the formulas. GDS Formula: (P + I + T + H + Condo Fees*) ÷ Gross Monthly Income Where: P = Principal I = Interest T = Property Taxes H = Heat Condo fees are usually calculated at 50% of the total amount TDS Formula: (GDS + Monthly Debt Payments) ÷ Gross Monthly Income These ratios tell lenders if your budget is already stretched too thin—or if you’ve got room to safely take on a mortgage. How High Is Too High? Most lenders follow maximum thresholds, especially for insured (high-ratio) mortgages. As of now, those limits are typically: GDS: Max 39% TDS: Max 44% Go above those numbers and your application could be declined, regardless of how confident you feel about your ability to manage the payments. Real-World Example Let’s say you’re earning $90,000 a year, or $7,500 a month. You find a home you love, and the monthly housing costs (mortgage payment, property tax, heat) total $1,700/month. GDS = $1,700 ÷ $7,500 = 22.7% You’re well under the 39% cap—so far, so good. Now factor in your other monthly obligations: Car loan: $300 Child support: $500 Credit card/line of credit payments: $700 Total other debt = $1,500/month Now add that to the $1,700 in housing costs: TDS = $3,200 ÷ $7,500 = 42.7% Uh oh. Even though your GDS looks great, your TDS is just over the 42% limit. That could put your mortgage approval at risk—even if you’re paying similar or higher rent now. What Can You Do? In cases like this, small adjustments can make a big difference: Consolidate or restructure your debts to lower monthly payments Reallocate part of your down payment to reduce high-interest debt Add a co-applicant to increase qualifying income Wait and build savings or credit strength before applying This is where working with an experienced mortgage professional pays off. We can look at your entire financial picture and help you make strategic moves to qualify confidently. Don’t Leave It to Chance Everyone’s situation is different, and debt service ratios aren’t something you want to guess at. The earlier you start the conversation, the more time you’ll have to improve your numbers and boost your chances of approval. If you're wondering how much home you can afford—or want help analyzing your own GDS and TDS—let’s connect. I’d be happy to walk through your numbers and help you build a solid mortgage strategy.